Criticism is always good as long as it doesn’t extend to the point of devastating somebody’s reputation. It helps people to be in good terms with his own self and with others. It also provides room for them to right their wrong. People consider critics as their personal mirror. Criticisms taken positively can better individuals and make them productive assets of the community.
Finger pointing, however, is another matter. It is a completely different thing from criticism. Finger pointing or mudslinging is synonymous to putting blame on someone without the benefit of due process. Simply blaming an individual with baseless things, with unfounded matters.
To make it shorter, criticism is healthy and finger pointing is disastrous. To criticize is to help people realize to think back on their actions. To finger point is to put blame on person with senseless things.
It is stupid for someone to react pessimistically to criticism for it would not give him integral growth.
It is pure hypocrisy if people won’t defend their ground even mud are thrown to their face. It is not being defensive to clear oneself from false allegations. Don’t even expect someone to wish you happiness the following morning after you slam that person face with horseshits. That person would come out charlatan or a complete pretender.
I am always open to criticism but I hated most being blame for something unfounded. I despise being subject of a false allegations. It bothers my peaceful living.
Living peacefully doesn’t technically leaving alone. We can live a serene life even in the presence of other people but people who grant peace to others.
It was barely to days after I met with my girl in Cebu and I was surprised when she had alleged me for something else. It’s unbelievable! Keso daw tinataguan ko siya… tag-ilad ko daw siya… etc etc etc etc…
I can stand being criticized but I can’t stand being dragged to things I couldn’t imagine I can do or will ever do.
Kung wala naman tayong magandang sasabihin, mabuti pa siguro di na lang tayo magsasalita kaysa makasakit tayo ng damdamin ng iba. Lalong - lalo pag wala naman katuturan iyong ating sasabihin. Okay lang yong mamuna ka pero huwag naman sana yong mangbintang.
It’s unfortunate that my girl knew me the other way from people who surround us. If she will only see me on the other side, she will surely say “ANG SWERTE KO PALA!”
Monday, June 20, 2005
Thursday, June 09, 2005
wIsHfuL aKo
My girl and I made a pact that if distance would keep us separated due to the onus she or I should comply with our family, we should keep our bond stronger and refrain from those attitudes, actions, petty things, and fights that threatens to devastate our valued relationship. It’s barely two weeks after she left for Cebu City, I already encountered and experienced the things we should not be doing as agreed by us prior to her departure.
It is sad to say that those things are the one I hated most even when we’re still in one place. Those are the things, attitudes, behaviors and actions I despised for I wanted to leave a life full of respect, trust and serenity.
I have this reputation of being meticulous and organized in any thing. Being such, I can easily recognize if I have done something unforgivable. If I am not that quick to see my shortcomings, I am always receptive to people animadversions to refresh my (failing) memory.
I always believe in the idea that people can change. They can transform their depraved manners, attitudes, behaviors, and actions to an acceptable one, if not angelic. Reasons that I mingled even with the individuals other people derided – drug addicts, kanto boys etc.
Just last night, my girl confronted me why I am not answering to her text messages where in fact i did. The downside of modern technology especially with the presence of unlimited text and call promotions of wireless mobile communication providers. It overloads the system and sometimes doesnt forward messages to the recepient.
The thing I couldn’t believe hearing last night from my girl is her statement – “ I completely trust you” yet she won’t believe some of my statements. There is a prevalent existence of inconsistency in that statement.
Ako na ingamit an tanan klase nan pagsabot sa iya batasan. Ako na intestingan an tanan klase nan pasensiya. Wara siya masayod kon uno kasakit an ako tagbati sa pagsabot ug pagpasensiya sa iya para lang protektahan an amo relasyon. Bisan maglagot na ako dili dakan lamang nako siya confrontahon kay hibawo ako na siya pa an maglagot.
What if kaha moabot an time na pasanginlan ko siya on something na dili tinuod. Makaya kaha niya ako sabton ug pagpasensiyahan? Mahimo kaha ako niya istoryahon sa cool na paagi kaysa masakit, awayon or buodan ako?
A relationship, whether long distance or not, would not workout and last longer if you won’t winnow things out and refrain from doing, acting and behaving things that would devastate any given relationship.
Yes! It is not good to control our emotions but be sure to control our actions. We may be drowned by our negative emotions yet we can do things in a diplomatic way instead of choking one’s neck.
I stayed in the relationship because I love her so much and I have a big hope that she would change her depraved ways. Who, after all, wanted to have a relationship and family where violence resides - physical, verbal or emotional?
I am wishful that she changes her old ways so we can workout the long distance relationship she feared won’t succeed. I am hopeful that she concentrates on things that would make our bond stronger.
It is sad to say that those things are the one I hated most even when we’re still in one place. Those are the things, attitudes, behaviors and actions I despised for I wanted to leave a life full of respect, trust and serenity.
I have this reputation of being meticulous and organized in any thing. Being such, I can easily recognize if I have done something unforgivable. If I am not that quick to see my shortcomings, I am always receptive to people animadversions to refresh my (failing) memory.
I always believe in the idea that people can change. They can transform their depraved manners, attitudes, behaviors, and actions to an acceptable one, if not angelic. Reasons that I mingled even with the individuals other people derided – drug addicts, kanto boys etc.
Just last night, my girl confronted me why I am not answering to her text messages where in fact i did. The downside of modern technology especially with the presence of unlimited text and call promotions of wireless mobile communication providers. It overloads the system and sometimes doesnt forward messages to the recepient.
The thing I couldn’t believe hearing last night from my girl is her statement – “ I completely trust you” yet she won’t believe some of my statements. There is a prevalent existence of inconsistency in that statement.
Ako na ingamit an tanan klase nan pagsabot sa iya batasan. Ako na intestingan an tanan klase nan pasensiya. Wara siya masayod kon uno kasakit an ako tagbati sa pagsabot ug pagpasensiya sa iya para lang protektahan an amo relasyon. Bisan maglagot na ako dili dakan lamang nako siya confrontahon kay hibawo ako na siya pa an maglagot.
What if kaha moabot an time na pasanginlan ko siya on something na dili tinuod. Makaya kaha niya ako sabton ug pagpasensiyahan? Mahimo kaha ako niya istoryahon sa cool na paagi kaysa masakit, awayon or buodan ako?
A relationship, whether long distance or not, would not workout and last longer if you won’t winnow things out and refrain from doing, acting and behaving things that would devastate any given relationship.
Yes! It is not good to control our emotions but be sure to control our actions. We may be drowned by our negative emotions yet we can do things in a diplomatic way instead of choking one’s neck.
I stayed in the relationship because I love her so much and I have a big hope that she would change her depraved ways. Who, after all, wanted to have a relationship and family where violence resides - physical, verbal or emotional?
I am wishful that she changes her old ways so we can workout the long distance relationship she feared won’t succeed. I am hopeful that she concentrates on things that would make our bond stronger.
Tuesday, June 07, 2005
Troubled
I dwelled in a placid environment, nurtured by a tranquil family.
Never could I remember instances of siblings’ rivalry and my parents having a square fight since the day I reached the age of reason.
I am always longing to spend the rest of my life living in serenity. The usual way of living I am accustomed to.
There are instances, however, in my present life that keep me troubled. I marvel on the potentiality of a ferocious tiger, bone-crushing-clawed eagle or, taking the example of a softdrink commercial, bad cheetah living with a peace loving dove or tamed dog/cat in one domicile. Is this set-up possible? It’s difficult to imagine, right?
In the case of human family, the likelihood of a member, behaving like wild animals, living with a disciplined and nonviolent dweller is much likely possible. A serene atmosphere, however, is hard to achieve. But like fierce animals in Safari, people, no matter how stone-hearted, have a soft motherly side.
Human behavior changes and adapts with the environment. A placid ambiance breeds a calm behavior. It is an atmosphere I am comfortable with. A violent free environ.
As depicted in the softdrink ad, like a ferocious cheetah tamed by human hand, people’s harshest behavior and attitude aren’t thorny to transform them into a more compassionate and humane one.
People dwell with ill-mannered and ill-tempered individual because they believe that they can be transformed. Moreover, human dignity is relevant than human attitude.
Some human still wrangle being accepted as what/who they are even to the extent of tolerating their awful deeds. That I strongly oppose. It can never become acceptable no matter of time.
An unlawful criminal could be community’s best asset someday somehow. A two quarrelling fellows could be a loving married couple in the future, as in the case of my elementary classmates.
Human, no matter how harsh they are, have the capability to be good. Moreso, they are created in the goodness of God. What bother me are those people who are hard to recognize their shortcomings and take a leap to bettering them. I can’t have a sound rest if I’m badgered by the thought that some tiger-like being will choke my throat on my slumber.
Never could I remember instances of siblings’ rivalry and my parents having a square fight since the day I reached the age of reason.
I am always longing to spend the rest of my life living in serenity. The usual way of living I am accustomed to.
There are instances, however, in my present life that keep me troubled. I marvel on the potentiality of a ferocious tiger, bone-crushing-clawed eagle or, taking the example of a softdrink commercial, bad cheetah living with a peace loving dove or tamed dog/cat in one domicile. Is this set-up possible? It’s difficult to imagine, right?
In the case of human family, the likelihood of a member, behaving like wild animals, living with a disciplined and nonviolent dweller is much likely possible. A serene atmosphere, however, is hard to achieve. But like fierce animals in Safari, people, no matter how stone-hearted, have a soft motherly side.
Human behavior changes and adapts with the environment. A placid ambiance breeds a calm behavior. It is an atmosphere I am comfortable with. A violent free environ.
As depicted in the softdrink ad, like a ferocious cheetah tamed by human hand, people’s harshest behavior and attitude aren’t thorny to transform them into a more compassionate and humane one.
People dwell with ill-mannered and ill-tempered individual because they believe that they can be transformed. Moreover, human dignity is relevant than human attitude.
Some human still wrangle being accepted as what/who they are even to the extent of tolerating their awful deeds. That I strongly oppose. It can never become acceptable no matter of time.
An unlawful criminal could be community’s best asset someday somehow. A two quarrelling fellows could be a loving married couple in the future, as in the case of my elementary classmates.
Human, no matter how harsh they are, have the capability to be good. Moreso, they are created in the goodness of God. What bother me are those people who are hard to recognize their shortcomings and take a leap to bettering them. I can’t have a sound rest if I’m badgered by the thought that some tiger-like being will choke my throat on my slumber.
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