Curious on how Vaginas Think

It is common that women talk a lot, which makes them more confusing to understand. There are times when I am caught deciphering which I am supposed to believe.

My GF had asked a “break up” with me the night of All Souls Day. I again found myself in deep thinking why this is happening to us or why with the instant decision. I was also asking myself the following questions – how could she make that instant decision base on senseless misunderstanding? Am I really worthy of this trouble?

November 4 – As I was about to report to office, at the tricycle terminal in Tago, drivers were talking about their wives’ attitudes and behaviors. The statement of one of the drivers caught me: “Lain gayud baya inin mga babaye. Kon masakit ako sa ako asawa, siya pa hinuon an mas masakit. Naman kon motaas na an boses, magpuyo dakan lamang kita. Kalimtan dakan lamang nato an ato kasakit.”

The tricycle driver’s statement about his wife somehow enlightened me regarding women. Women are so complex for men to understand.

I remember something about a play entitled “ Vaginas Talk”, which a friend of mine have told me years ago. Correct me, if I am wrong, that it talks about dynamics of women. I would wish to see it if that play is still running for I believe it would make me more sensitive about women.

I am, however, curious on how Vaginas Think…

Analize this...

Of all the dates in the calendar, the most easy to remember are those days which fall on special celebrations/occassions - birthdays, anniversaries of any sort..etc...

It just made me wonder that the day is almost finish yet i have not recieved any message (except for the missent message intended for her brother) from the person who i consider special and who call me special.

It seems not unusual for other people but this day is "JUST our 25th Monthsary"..!

I should have contented myself in believing that she doesnt have a penny to text me but it's an unforgiving circumstance for she had sent a message. The sad part is it was not for me.

I know guys would be thinking that I am too engrossed with this lass because I often eat my pride. So unfortunate for me for I only recieve indignation instead of a little appreciation for my effort.

Is being concern something gross to do?

Are special events/occasions for people or couple something difficult to remember?

Analize those...

My Current Dilemma

I hate to become indecisive. After the many unsuccessful try in relationship with ladies, I met a lass, one of my tyros in the local college, who rekindled the passion inside me, which I thought, had simultaneously died with my last relationship. I was then caught in the middle. Should I give myself a chance to “rise” in love again or put that idea to oblivion?

I, then, give in to the idea of affording the “thing” one more chance with the hopefulness of greater or bigger success. I was motivated by the thought of ensuring things will work out for both of us.

Her parents’ show of distrust, distaste and disapproval of the relationship was our major challenge or sort of problem. There were apprehensions that she would not graduate and if she would, she’d subsequently get married.

Those things were over yet another is on the offing.

Expectations -a smooth running relationship is arm-reached following all the grapples of the first year. This is so because, if this is similar to a game, we have already reached the second level. The level where we have ample of time to discuss things, plans, etc that we want and concern us vis-à-vis the affairs of our immediate family.

This jiffy is timely to sort things out and discuss the future for both of us. I have been vocal about my desires and plans for my future with her. I am dying to start preparing the soils where I would plant the seeds for our future yet could not begin the toil for I don’t know and discern the seeds she wants us to grow.

This has been my DILEMMA for I don’t know where to start. All her plans have been kept secret to me. Until she would divulge to me her plans and desires for us, we can’t officially start living together our future today. Living together the future doesn’t literally mean living closely-physically and in one roof.

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As we aged, that is of course with time, we wouldn’t notice certain changes in our desires for our life. We tend to be meticulous in choosing the things we wanted and even in how we want to live our life. We have savings and we spend it on important things. Unlike before, we save for the purpose of splurging it in shopping malls, fancy restaurants and restobars as if there’s no tomorrow to expect. We live like “one-day millionaires”.

I made some reassessment of myself and I was astonished by what I have become. Here I am thinking on saving and have many ideas on how to have good investment. Here I am who thinks of working hard to establish a rock-solid foundation for my future. Here I am who doesn’t think of girls but thought of a would-be future wife. GRABEeeeeeehhhhhh na to……!

I could remember that in the ‘90s it is so easy to stay for months without a girlfriend and hook up with a girl any time you want some company or some girlfriend thing. This is how my mind worked that time being influenced by my “babaero” circle of friends. Reasons that until now some people still coin me as “chickboy” or “babaero’. Anyway, I wouldn’t feel guilty of playing with ladies’ feelings because I had truly loved them.

I could remember that it was at the start of the 2000 that a great change in my perspective about life and girls had changed. Even the circle of friends I have had agreed that it’s to tiring to just look for a girlfriend. Time had already fashioned and conditioned us to look for wifey-material than a girlfriend-material around town. We become obsessed on the idea of preparing and starting to build the foundation of our future. There comes now the drive to earn a living and even plans of marrying. Unfortunately/fortunately, only two of us from our circle of friends have remained single at present.

I could not believe the change I had undergone yet I could not still believe that people still see me as the “chickboy” of the past despite these changes that transpired in my life.

Why should I worry about them? It’s there problem. Anyway, I wasn’t doing any harm do them. What is important is I’m not guilty of something and I am RENEWED and better than before.

TIPS para sa Ligtas, Maginhawa at Di Mailimutang Pamamaalam sa Mundo

1. Bago ang lahat, alamin muna ang tamang dahilan sa pagsu-suicide. Kung ang problema mo lamang ay dahil sa wala kang pera o iniwan ka ng minamahal mo, hindi ka dapat magpakatiwakal. Ang mundo ay tambak ng mga tao na pwede mong mahalin at ang pera ay pede mong kitain, kaya hindi ka dapat mawalan ng pag - asa. Ang pagkitil sa sariling buhay ay KARAPATAN LAMANG ng mga taong gumagamit ng cellphone at nakikipagkwentuhan sa loob ng sinehan.

2. kung desidido ka na sa gagawin mong pagpapakamatay at sa tingin mo meron kang tamang dahilan para gawin ito, ang susunod mong hakbang ay ang pagpili ng PARAAN NG PAGPAPAKAMATAY. Ang mga popular na paraan ay ang pagbibigti, pag - inom ng lason, pagtalon sa riles ng tren, pagbaril sa ulo ( o sa puso kung wala ka ng ulo pero buhay ka pa din ) at paglaslas ng pulso. Ang mga jologs naman na paraan ay ang pagtalon sa EDSA at pagpigil ng hininga.Tandaan, maari kang mabuhay pag nagkamali ka sa pagsasagawa ng mga nabanggtit, kaya pumili lamang ng isa na HIYANG sa'yo. Bukod dyan, marami rin sa mga paraang ito ang MAKALAT at NAKAKA-PANGIT. Dyahe naman kung pagtitinginan ng mga tao yung mukha mo sa ataul tapos mukha kang dehydrated
na langaw.

3. Sumulat ng suicide note. Ito ang exciting. Dito pwede mong sisihin lahat ng tao at wala silang magagawa. Sabihin mo na hindi mo gusting tapusin ang buhay mo kaso lang bad trip silang lahat. Pero wag din kakalimutang humingi ng tawad sa bandang huli para mas cool pag ginawa ni Carlo J. Caparas ang buhay mo. At tandaan, IMPORTANTE ANG SUICIDE NOTE para malaman ng mga tao na nagpakamatay ka nga at hindi na - murder. Sa ganitong paraan, maiiwasan ng PNP ang pagkuha sa kalye ng kahit sinong tambay bilang suspect.

4. Pumili ng THEME SONG. Banggitin ang iyong special request sa suicide note. Ipagbilin ng pagtugtugin nito sa prusisyon ng iyong libing. IWASAN ang mga kanta ng Salbakuta. DAPAT MEDYO MELLOW at MEANINGFUL...tulad ng mga kanta ng Sexbomb.

5. Isulat ng MAAYOS ang suicide note. PRINT. Iwasang magbura. Gumamit ng scented stationary at #1 mongol pencil. Lagdaan. Wag gumamit ng sticker. Ilagay ang suicide note sa MADALING MAKITA. IDIKIT SA NOO.

6. PLANUHIN ANG ISUSUOT. Tandaan, minsan ka lang mamamatay, kaya dapat memorable ang get - up. Pumili ng mga telang di umuurong o makati sa katawan. Magbaon ng dalawang pares pampalit pag pinagpawisan ka.

7. Kumuha ng de - kalidad na ataul. Maganda ang kulay puti dahil malamig at kumportable kahit tag - init. Huwag magtipid. Mas makakamura kung bibili ng cable ready kesa magpapalit pa balang araw.

8. Pumili ng magandang pwesto sa sementeryo. Ang puntod ng mga taong
ipinanganak sa year of the rat, dragon, rabbit, snake, tiger, chicken, pork, at beef ay dapat nakaharap sa Fiesta Carnival. Ang mga ipinanganak sa ibang taon ay dapat i-cremate at gawing foot powder para gumaan ang pasok ng pera.

9. Itaon ang araw ng libing sa unang dalawang linggo ng buwan o di kaya'y huling dalawang linggo para gumaan ang pasok ng pera.

10. Kung meron ka ng NBI, at police clearance, affidavit of loss, voter's ID, promissory note, original copy of birth certificate, at urine sample, pwde mo ng isagawa ang kalugod - lugod na gawain. Siguraduhin lang na di ka mababalita sa tabloid katabi ng mga article tungkol sa kabayong tatlo ang ulo, at sirenang namataan sa Manila Bay para gumaan ang pasok ng pera.

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I knew a man who is so in love with a woman he had met two years ago. I have been following them as their love affair unfolds from days to weeks to years…

I knew they are a good pair for even this woman is too sensitive on things, which has too little concern about their relationship. Even she has the tendency on taking things on herself without verifying their authenticity, this man had developed a great sense of understanding and had honed the value of patience.

I understand that this man knew that his lady is engulfed by the idea of jealousy. Due to this, gaining the trust of her ladylove is of paramount importance to him. It is for there were quite instances that his ladylove had alleged him of something that never had existed.

The worst thing happened when he was alleged of having an affair with a woman, Niña, whom he had met two yearx before he and his ladylove started a relationship. The allegation happened a month before their second year anniversary. His ladylove was asking a break-up from him.

The man wasn’t surprise of her move because he knew his ladylove well. What surprised him was his ladylove’s grounds or basis for turning down their relationship. Her decision was rooted on the issue of him having a relationship with Niña.

As far as I know, Niña was a friend of Glen, who happened to be a friend of this man. Niña graduated valedictorian at the local high school in year 2000. Based on Glen’s testimony, Niña had a crushed on his friend even during their college days. It was on 2001 Easter Sunday that Niña and his friend met through his invitation.

After the encounter, the two remained acquaintances even the man knew Niña’s feeling about him. There were instances that the man was tempted to court her but the two remained friends, as casual friends with no strings attached. In December 2002, Niña and her family went back to Cotabato and stayed there for good. Since then, the two had not met again and had remained friends.

The request of his ladylove doesn’t bother him for he knew she has the ever right to do it. What badgers him is the manner her ladylove reaches her decision. The man had observed for many instances that his ladylove had made decisions on gut feelings and on the words of other people. She always came to a conclusion without even digging further into the issue or verifying “tell tales” of people around her.

I understand that it’s difficult to believe the statement of the person whom we think had caused you this terrible feeling. Yet it’s unlikely also to just believe on what other people are saying. It always safe to see and find out for yourself what is the real truth so you can make judgment of whom you’re gonna believe.

In short, it is always a good idea “not to quickly buy what other people are saying yet to discover for ourselves the real truth so we will know who is lying.” Beware that quickly buying somebody’s ideas might bring us to peril or danger in the end.

I do hope that it would not be too late for the love affair of this couple to change and resolves things out before their “love train” will go out of its track. It is always a sad part to this man to see his ladylove suffers pain, which actually not caused by him but by small lapse in judgment or understanding of the issue confronting any of them.

May GOD guide them in their decisions always. GOD bless the two of them.

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Criticism is always good as long as it doesn’t extend to the point of devastating somebody’s reputation. It helps people to be in good terms with his own self and with others. It also provides room for them to right their wrong. People consider critics as their personal mirror. Criticisms taken positively can better individuals and make them productive assets of the community.

Finger pointing, however, is another matter. It is a completely different thing from criticism. Finger pointing or mudslinging is synonymous to putting blame on someone without the benefit of due process. Simply blaming an individual with baseless things, with unfounded matters.

To make it shorter, criticism is healthy and finger pointing is disastrous. To criticize is to help people realize to think back on their actions. To finger point is to put blame on person with senseless things.

It is stupid for someone to react pessimistically to criticism for it would not give him integral growth.

It is pure hypocrisy if people won’t defend their ground even mud are thrown to their face. It is not being defensive to clear oneself from false allegations. Don’t even expect someone to wish you happiness the following morning after you slam that person face with horseshits. That person would come out charlatan or a complete pretender.

I am always open to criticism but I hated most being blame for something unfounded. I despise being subject of a false allegations. It bothers my peaceful living.

Living peacefully doesn’t technically leaving alone. We can live a serene life even in the presence of other people but people who grant peace to others.

It was barely to days after I met with my girl in Cebu and I was surprised when she had alleged me for something else. It’s unbelievable! Keso daw tinataguan ko siya… tag-ilad ko daw siya… etc etc etc etc…

I can stand being criticized but I can’t stand being dragged to things I couldn’t imagine I can do or will ever do.

Kung wala naman tayong magandang sasabihin, mabuti pa siguro di na lang tayo magsasalita kaysa makasakit tayo ng damdamin ng iba. Lalong - lalo pag wala naman katuturan iyong ating sasabihin. Okay lang yong mamuna ka pero huwag naman sana yong mangbintang.

It’s unfortunate that my girl knew me the other way from people who surround us. If she will only see me on the other side, she will surely say “ANG SWERTE KO PALA!”

wIsHfuL aKo

My girl and I made a pact that if distance would keep us separated due to the onus she or I should comply with our family, we should keep our bond stronger and refrain from those attitudes, actions, petty things, and fights that threatens to devastate our valued relationship. It’s barely two weeks after she left for Cebu City, I already encountered and experienced the things we should not be doing as agreed by us prior to her departure.

It is sad to say that those things are the one I hated most even when we’re still in one place. Those are the things, attitudes, behaviors and actions I despised for I wanted to leave a life full of respect, trust and serenity.

I have this reputation of being meticulous and organized in any thing. Being such, I can easily recognize if I have done something unforgivable. If I am not that quick to see my shortcomings, I am always receptive to people animadversions to refresh my (failing) memory.

I always believe in the idea that people can change. They can transform their depraved manners, attitudes, behaviors, and actions to an acceptable one, if not angelic. Reasons that I mingled even with the individuals other people derided – drug addicts, kanto boys etc.

Just last night, my girl confronted me why I am not answering to her text messages where in fact i did. The downside of modern technology especially with the presence of unlimited text and call promotions of wireless mobile communication providers. It overloads the system and sometimes doesnt forward messages to the recepient.

The thing I couldn’t believe hearing last night from my girl is her statement – “ I completely trust you” yet she won’t believe some of my statements. There is a prevalent existence of inconsistency in that statement.

Ako na ingamit an tanan klase nan pagsabot sa iya batasan. Ako na intestingan an tanan klase nan pasensiya. Wara siya masayod kon uno kasakit an ako tagbati sa pagsabot ug pagpasensiya sa iya para lang protektahan an amo relasyon. Bisan maglagot na ako dili dakan lamang nako siya confrontahon kay hibawo ako na siya pa an maglagot.

What if kaha moabot an time na pasanginlan ko siya on something na dili tinuod. Makaya kaha niya ako sabton ug pagpasensiyahan? Mahimo kaha ako niya istoryahon sa cool na paagi kaysa masakit, awayon or buodan ako?

A relationship, whether long distance or not, would not workout and last longer if you won’t winnow things out and refrain from doing, acting and behaving things that would devastate any given relationship.

Yes! It is not good to control our emotions but be sure to control our actions. We may be drowned by our negative emotions yet we can do things in a diplomatic way instead of choking one’s neck.

I stayed in the relationship because I love her so much and I have a big hope that she would change her depraved ways. Who, after all, wanted to have a relationship and family where violence resides - physical, verbal or emotional?

I am wishful that she changes her old ways so we can workout the long distance relationship she feared won’t succeed. I am hopeful that she concentrates on things that would make our bond stronger.

Troubled

I dwelled in a placid environment, nurtured by a tranquil family.

Never could I remember instances of siblings’ rivalry and my parents having a square fight since the day I reached the age of reason.

I am always longing to spend the rest of my life living in serenity. The usual way of living I am accustomed to.

There are instances, however, in my present life that keep me troubled. I marvel on the potentiality of a ferocious tiger, bone-crushing-clawed eagle or, taking the example of a softdrink commercial, bad cheetah living with a peace loving dove or tamed dog/cat in one domicile. Is this set-up possible? It’s difficult to imagine, right?

In the case of human family, the likelihood of a member, behaving like wild animals, living with a disciplined and nonviolent dweller is much likely possible. A serene atmosphere, however, is hard to achieve. But like fierce animals in Safari, people, no matter how stone-hearted, have a soft motherly side.

Human behavior changes and adapts with the environment. A placid ambiance breeds a calm behavior. It is an atmosphere I am comfortable with. A violent free environ.

As depicted in the softdrink ad, like a ferocious cheetah tamed by human hand, people’s harshest behavior and attitude aren’t thorny to transform them into a more compassionate and humane one.

People dwell with ill-mannered and ill-tempered individual because they believe that they can be transformed. Moreover, human dignity is relevant than human attitude.

Some human still wrangle being accepted as what/who they are even to the extent of tolerating their awful deeds. That I strongly oppose. It can never become acceptable no matter of time.

An unlawful criminal could be community’s best asset someday somehow. A two quarrelling fellows could be a loving married couple in the future, as in the case of my elementary classmates.

Human, no matter how harsh they are, have the capability to be good. Moreso, they are created in the goodness of God. What bother me are those people who are hard to recognize their shortcomings and take a leap to bettering them. I can’t have a sound rest if I’m badgered by the thought that some tiger-like being will choke my throat on my slumber.

Keep on Dancing

I had this feeling that my present partner has been playing with me and I am so foolish not to notice it that early. Well, that was I thought. Human errs, right?

Anyways, I had that idea creeping on my head because I seldom saw and felt affection from her. I don’t know why it is an issue for her or should I say difficult for her to give in to it. I could not even remember her giving me appreciation except for the usual ‘thank you’ thing. But for sure, I always hear complains from her. Are women really like these?

Well, that’s been a long gone issue for me. I seem to follow and think the traditional way, that women are born nurturers and appreciative. Quite true for my Xs were damn good nurturers.

I also have an attitude of candidly showing and telling people what I think is wrong and what I wanted. After all, it is honesty in the simple sense. But I was too slow to learn that it isn’t good for a guy to tell a woman their inabilities. They constantly took it as a sort of lecturing them. Poor me. I realized it lately.

I had also this perspective that it doesn’t take two to dance. Undoubtedly, I love dancing during my high-school days. My body still jumps to beat every time I hear disco beats even now. Unfortunately similar to dance, in relationship, it always takes two to have a more awe-inspiring number. So, I was wrong again. As it is said, it always takes two to tango.

I am wishful that my present dance partner in life and I are dancing on similar tune. It’s too bad for us if I’m dancing rumba and she’s into salsa. I surmise we already had reached an agreement.

I have already an affirmation that I will be “saving my last dance for her”… I just hope she is saving her last dance for me too.

Let’s us dance through life without the benefit of exchanging dance partners, of course. (Let’s be monogamous.)

Nothing to do with SEX

Young people always associate sex with relationship or relationship with sex. As if there could be no such fulfilling relationship without a satisfying sexual activities. Youngsters looked sex as the standard of having lasting and stronger romantic bond with women. Sex is desired by bigger percentage of the young.

A lot of surveys claim that majority wanted sex but sex, as it is, never became the barometer of a fulfilling life with your sexual partner. Quite true. People crave for relationship. Only sexual maniacs crave for sex.

Understandably, in a relationship you should not deny your sexual partner a gratifying sexual act. It is, however, a part of the total relationship package. Outspoken ladies even confirmed that they love and die for sexual gratification even without the blessing of matrimony. They believe that sex act can be done anytime you desire it provided in falls under the context of “being responsible enough for your own action”. Don’t do it if you can’t responsibly do it.

The most important things in sexual relationship are the intangibles. Surrendering oneself, through sexual intimacies, to someone doesn’t wholly convey true love for the person. It did mean true in the past though. True love, for me, is manifested not only in surrendering material possessions or even yourself to the one you loved. Giving him/her your valuable time matters most.

When I say, “Give him/her your time,” I don’t mean the time s/he requested you to share with him/her. I am pointing to how many times you have planned in your own to spend quality time with your partner. Or you’re just acting the otherwise? Say, you are just waiting for your partner to do the thing for both of you. “S/he is so busy with work” is a damn lame excuse. People still have personal lives to live, right?

We are no longer in a time were single gender dominated the world. Partner, as you are, must also do his/her own thing for the partnership. Be an active partner. Think, decide and act what you desire for you and for your boo. Let your initiative kicks butt.

Relationship is not paramount to sex. It, indeed, involves a lot of intangible things. One thing is initiating a plan of spending quality time with your partner without the latter’s insinuation.

An Abject Love Story of a Friend

A guy friend of mine from TAGO shared to me his love story, an abject rather than the they-live-happy-ever-after story. That is the best way I can couch his story with his girl. I just wish that I did him justice. Here is his romance:

This guy friend of mine from TAGO met this lass in mid - 2002 at the local college in TANDAG. Tina, not her real name, of course, but somewhat closer to her true identity, was a transferee then from one of the universities in Davao. (The choice for the pseudonym Tina, however, is taken from one of the eyeball’s parts, which is the Retina that contains the real name of the lass. What a puzzle!) This guy DAVE, as I should name him, had already been bewitched by her reserved personality.

To make the narration shorter, Dave and Tina became sweethearts in September 2003. It all started when unknowingly Dave, who hated the idea of having a textmate, happened to respond to the message of a party whom he doesn’t have knowledge of. All he knew was she is a lady for he had called her but he could not puzzled out her identity. They kept the communication open for three long months. Unusual for Dave to last that long for wontedly a day or two he is out of that sort of set-up. The contact continued to the point that Dave had confided to Tina personal things like the name of the girl he longed and wanted.

One day, Tina stupefied Dave when she had confessed that the lady whom he had an eye on for quite time was her, Tina herself. Dave had mix feelings knowing that fact. He could not believe her. And if it was true, what face could he have to show her when they meet in school. He was caught in the middle. Though, on the other side, he was happy that he had her as his textmate.

Since then, they casually dined at local restaurants, went lazying at the beach and shared things they love and dislike in life. Coincidentally, both of them shared the same trauma of their past relationships. They even feared to build another one.

Having similar denominator (their past life and their fears, among others), they could not mustered enough strength to resist the attraction building between the two of them. Finally, the said pull of attraction bond them as sweethearts during the middle of September in 2003.

The Year 2004 was not a very good year for them. Insecurities still crept on their relationship. More petty rhubarbs (read: love quarrels) sprung. Dave could not remember a single month that they haven’t argued. What a pity!

The start of 2005 can be considered a good year for them. Everything seems to be all right. Petty arguments, which were hated by them, were out of the scene. Love occupied every space of their life.

If you gotta look at them from any angle, they resemble a perfect tandem. One thing, however, is not resolve between them. They can’t agree on something. If Dave wanted this thing, she wanted another, that sort of things.

Dave loved her so much even to the idea of marrying her, spending his life and consuming his lifetime with her. Tina desired a different thing. She can’t even tell and convinced Dave she wanted him so much. They are still together now but that last sentence seems to be their problem, which needs their first attention.

Indeed, it is an abject love story, as I would put it. As I ponder, it is hard for Dave to have an uncertain future with Tina. Dave deserves to be told by Tina of what she really wanted for them. They are partners, after all. Both of them are affected when one got a problem. And the affair/problem of one becomes an affair/problem of the other.

If Tina plans to live her future without Dave, then, she should start living her life without Dave the soonest as today. That I guess, Tina does justice to Dave. Dave still deserves more things than that.

If Tina long only for a boyfriend, well, that is fine for Dave. Dave will selflessly offer himself as her BF but won’t bother/care for her future. She can’t demand Dave’s time and can’t even bar Dave from having dates.

If Tina wanted to share her future with Dave, then, she must feel, accept and recognize now that in whatever path she’s going to take, moves she’s going to make, plans she is going to concretize Dave must always be part of it. Dave must know and understand. In that way, problems are minimized if not eliminated. Frictions between them are lessened.

Commonality of this expression “to love unconditionally is to love without expecting to be loved in return” doesn’t fit every situation. It must be remembered that in a romantic relationship, it is a symbiotic set-up. It is a give – and – take relationship. And it is bound to sharing everything through time – from today towards the future.

If a guy has tried to woo you from time to time, don’t expect him to continually do the same to you if you won’t care. Time will come that he would need to give himself a space. He has still a life to live.

Mere Facades

I always marvel on the notion people have regarding me especially those who haven’t known me for a while. I was surprised one time when one of my pals relayed to me what this group of gals’ thought of me. They considered me suplado or unfriendly. Today, however, that line no longer bewilders me.

I am the type who doesn’t sashay on the alley to raise audience’s attention. Nor do I tell people through out-of-this-world gestures that I’m present. To simply put it, I don’t talk nor project a smile to people I don’t know personally.

There is also one thing that makes me laugh my lungs out. People thought I came from a well-off family. That my family is economically and financially well off. They, however, based their judgment on how I dress and project myself.

Our mother is telling us frequently to always look or dress neatly and clean even if your clothing just cost a few pennies. She hates to see us untidy. Remember one of the surf advertisements where Lumen is praised by her mother-in-law by this exact phrase: “ Wow, damit mayaman.”

They totally mistook me as a kidnap-for-ransom potential victim. My parent soils their hands daily to send us to school for our education. I had experienced sharing a small dried fish, a quartered chicken wing, a Target (a saucer full of salt where we dipped our fingers), a few drops of soy sauce with my siblings as provisions for many circumstances. I dwell in a bahay kubo (a native small nipa house) until this time. That’s no lie.

My mother keeps reiterating to us that it’s not what you eat that makes a good and dignified person. They are respect for others, respect of others and fear of God that makes a buxom personality and life.

You will always mistake me for something/someone else unless you come to know me better. Deep inside, I am bashful, however, candid. If you see me projecting a different picture, it is because my line of work requires it. In short, they are mere facades essential for my craft.

NO People Pleaser

The MOST DIFFICULT thing to do is to PLEASE people who hate you – laong nila (people claimed).

It was Saturday (February 5 of 2005) and I was earnest to pay visit to somebody special to me. My heart was pounding fitfully in anticipation of seeing that somebody.

The feeling of excitement rushed more rapidly through my veins than I never had felt previously. Nearing their pad, I saw somebody who is so close to her. In a polite manner that I could muster, I asked him if the person I intend to see was there. I could not believe my ears when his words had conveyed a message so clear for my eardrum not to decipher.

In an instant, I found myself at the verge of cogitation. What have I done? Was my personal absence in the past days (weekends, to be precise) suggested a wrong perception that I was fooling around?

In the pessimist’s standpoint you apparently think, is he jealous of me? Am I not worthy accepting? Was I too much to deal with? Or am I a threat for their future?

Of course, I don’t concur with the pessimist’s position on the subject. Nor would the “the most difficult thing to do is to please people who hate you” thing is appropriate to put the situation in plain words.

That circumstance had refined my approach in life, instead. I came to realize, even it is true that it’s hard for people to readily accept us as we wanted them to do, that it’s not for the reason that they despise us. They have reasons that only them knew. We have to be aware of it and show them our respect.

Though it was hard on me to experience such circumstance knowing that I detest being an object of hate or misunderstanding (how should I put it?), I could not have any wits to complain.

Candidly, in this jiffy of time, I concerned myself by counting with my fingers the I-should-to-do-things ought to be done by me.

I am wishful that in someway and someday I would live a happy life with them. That I would be his bukang-bibig.

JOKE LANG! Pinoy Valentino

PINOY VALENTINE

PARA sa may problema sa relasyon…

1. Para kang kulangot … mahirap kang kunin.
2. Para kang kuto … mahirap kang alisin sa ulo.
3. Para kang pustiso … I cant smile without you.
4. Para kang bra … hawak mo ang dibdib ko.
5. ‘Di ka pa ba napapagod? Kasi kanina ka pa tumatakbo sa isip ko.
6. Magkita na lang tayo sa korte … dahil ninakaw mo ang aking puso.





BUTI PA … BOW!

PARA sa mga sawi sa pag-ibig…

Buti pa ang halaman … may nag-aalaga.

Buti pa ang manok … nakatali.

Buti pa ang bees … may honey.

Buti pa ang papel … sinusulatan.

Buti pa ang mapa … sinusundan.

Buti pa ang nitso … may bulaklak.

Buti pa ang patay … may dumadalaw.

Buti pa ang preso … binabantayan.

Buti pa ang radyo … pinakikinggan.

Buti pa ang Three Kings … may rigalo.

Buti pa ang basketbol … may ring.

Buti pa ang kalendaryo … may date.

Buti pa ang telepono … hini-hello.

Buti pa ang prublema … iniisip.

Buti pa ang panyo … nadadalantay ang pisngi.

Buti pa ang baso … dinadampian ng labi.

Buti pa ang unan … inaakap sa gabi.

Buti pa ang kamalian … napapansin.

Buti pa ang salamin … minamasdan.

Buti pa ang hininga … hinahabol.

Buti pa ang tindera … nagpapatawad.

Buti pa ang sugat … inaalagaan.

Buti pa ang baga … malapit sa puso.

Buti pa ang kotse … mahal.

Buti pa ang pera … iniingatan.

Buti pa ang damo … dinidiligan.

Buti pa … magtrabaho ka na at baka … masisante ka pa!