Tendencies

All of us, indisputably, have common tendencies. – to think, act, like, feel, etc. These are given conditions in life.

People, however, are gifted with the freedom on how to act or to respond in any given circumstances. Our decision also varies depending on our culture, social and educational background or our value formation.

We all have the tendency to love not only those of our opposite sex but including our peers, parents, siblings, friends, work, pets and the list goes on. After all, human needs to be loved in returned. We can only reap love if we have sowed love.

We have also the tendency to get mad on certain people, things, situations etc. This tendency is sometimes so powerful that it could crush our senses. Most of us tend to be carried away by our emotion and become oblivious of our reactions or responses.

We can shield ourselves, however, from this by developing a higher Emotional Quotient or EQ. The principle underlying Emotional Quotient is “Don’t Control Your Emotions but Control Your Reactions or Reponses.” It’s healthy to get angry and be mad. But it’s downright horrible to kill and hurt people, be indecisive, be insensitive because you’re mad.

Men and women alike have the tendency to even get unfaithful to their partners. Given this tendency, however, is not tantamount to saying he/she is infidel. Though this inclination exists, the bottomline is not everybody gives in to this propensity. A person who has a stronger value formation can always evade the lure of infidelity.

we are distinct

Forgive me to sound preachy now. “Every one of us is created unique”, the Bible preaches.

What that passage has to do with my present predicament?

I am just confused why they coined me as “chicboy”. A “chicboy” is not literally a “girl magnet” but has a negative undertone on it. That perception continues to hound me until now. And is greatly affecting the relationship I have with this girl who is so special to me.

I can’t really decipher now the difference between my perceptions and the perspectives of other people especially that of the female gender regarding that so called “chicboys”. I don’t regard guys having numerous relationships in the past to belong on this category. I only do when I’m certain that they have two or more relationship at the same time. The so called “namamangka sa dalawang ilog."

I can proudly say that I’m not of the latter but of the former. Though, I have numerous relationships in the past and the time I entered college, I had a commitment to myself to only have one relationship at a time. I have high esteem towards the opposite sex.

The fact that I found it hard to understand the reactions and uptakes of my girl with regards to my dealings with my old…old friends, who have a female gender. It’s unreasonable, disrespectful to be shoving them away, anyway, when they only want to know how I’m doing in life now.

I can’t really comprehend why they always generalize things. There will always be good or bad, women and men alike. However, I always try to be on the good side. And I always shy away from things or manners that would destroy my cherished dreams, my relationship with people especially my relationship with people who I value most in life.

insensible lass

It is given that men hardly understood how women think. Though, men exert more efforts in ferreting for ways to identify what made them so anxious and unpredictable.

It is also a fact that men express their emotions through deeds and seldom in words, which women detest.

I have a four-year old relationship with a lass I met while I worked at the academe four-years ago. She has set some policies; I should say, Rules of Engagement of Military. One of this is to maintain an open and constant communication with her daily. That is, of course, sensible to keep the relationship afloat.

Yesterday, however, this lass gave me a headache. I don’t know why she’s mad that I wasn’t able to text her after office. Truth is, I have to reload my cellphone and texted her the time I got home. It’s just that she had texted me first at 7pm.

I‘ve been in the City of Golden Friendship for one week and here she comes banging my head with insinuations that I’m having an affair with somebody. Very insensible!

I really don’t understand why she could reach this kind of conclusion. Simply, by thinking of what I have done for her, is enough reason she could unclogged her head of pesky thoughts.

Pondering that I risked my future for her is a sufficient cause to soothe her fiery emotions. I lost 90 percent of all that I have worked for in five years for her. I even forgot to consider my family when I made that decision. This should make her more reasonable in having twisted thoughts regarding me.

I am very disappointed!

Officially in CDO

Today marks my first official duty in Cagayan de Oro City (CDO). It's only four days from the time I arrived here.

I never dreamed nor expected that I will be working in the City of Golden Friendship. We will never know it until we come across it. God will never tell us His plan, it is us who should have the heart to listen, decipher His blessings.

My very first plan was really to work in the Queen City of the South - that's in Cebu. Fortunately, I received ample job offers yet my heart chose to work in public service. Hence, I'm in CDO now.

It's now my fervent prayer that I'll have the capacity to deliver the services expected of me to identified clients. Now, I am hoping for the best in my life after a year of financial struggle. I am actually financially bankrupt now.